WISDOM FROM THE WISE: The Rooms of Your Home!

Whether living in an apartment, condo,  trailer park or house, it is important each room is filled with love for those entrusted in your care.

As a single mom, I moved a number of times due to cost, jobs, and support systems.  Wherever we hung our hat, I wanted the girls to sense each address was a place of safety and security.  It never seemed to be serene because it was packed full with homework, kids’ activities, sleep overs, and chores. But it was a place where they could feel it was ‘home’.

I also wanted it to be a place where the decisions I made for myself and my two children were held together with wisdom….God’s wisdom.

A woman’s family is held together by her wisdom, but it can be destroyed by her foolishness. Proverbs 14: 1

I know it can be a heavy load to be a responsible parent. No one can do it all on their own.  I can’t count the number of times I cried out to the Lord to help me make wise choices.  It can be scary and at times, daunting. Yet, God’s faithfulness never failed me.

He provided me with peace about certain decisions, gave me wise friends to chat with, and two girls that loved me despite my goofs from time to time.

God’s wisdom is a priceless treasure as you make your home and fill each room with God’s presence. Walking into each room and asking God to help and protect us, enabled our family to move ahead in life.

A beautiful verse, which I saw recently on someone’s wall, is a promise as you raise your kids and make decisions.

 Use wisdom and understanding to establish your home: let good sense fill the rooms with priceless treasures. Proverbs 24: 3-4

Are you contemplating some decisions and needing wisdom for:

  • A move
  • Trying out for a new job
  • Changing schools for your kids
  • Thinking about starting to date, or shutting one down
  • Making a new budget
  • Talking to your child about a certain behaviour
  • Dealing with issues with your ex

Whatever it is, use God’s wisdom and understanding so that all the rooms of your home will be filled with priceless treasures.

“Everything you were taught can be put into a few words:

Respect And Obey God! This is what life is all about.” Ecclesiastes 12:13

OPEN YOUR TREASURE CHEST OF WISDOM

  • Claim and memorize Proverbs 24: 3-4 as a promise for your home
  • Take time to enter each room and ask God to bless each space
  • Make this place where your kids can feel at home
  • Ask God to give you wisdom where you live and work
  • Use good sense to fill each room with priceless treasures from God

YOU CAN DO THIS!

 

Wisdom From the Wise: Smart phones, Smart Meters, and SMART CHILDREN

I remember feeling so exhausted.  I didn’t feel I had much left to give when trying to teach my children life issues.  After a long day at the office, adding household duties, helping them with their homework, and cracking open my own homework, it was easy just to want to give in.

I mean their life has dramatically changed and it would be hard for them to be disappointed again, right? Have you felt that way? It was tough when they argued or got upset when they couldn’t have what they wanted.  I was already feeling like a failure from a dead marriage.

Single moms, it is tough stuff.  However, don’t give up.  Keep setting safe boundaries and pursing to train them to be wise as they grow into adulthood. You may not see the benefits as they stomp off to their room, but it will be positive down the road.

It has been said that children need good, healthy boundaries and even though they don’t understand it, they feel more secure.  Raising kids to be not only street smart but life smart is a precious gift.

King Solomon said, “Children with good sense accept correction from their parents, but stubborn children ignore it completely”. Proverbs 13:1

It involves determination, even though exhausted, to stand firm and help your children make wise choices.  It takes time to sit with them, ask them their thoughts and work through a positive solution.

God has gifted you with your precious children and He thinks you will do an amazing job.  Have you asked Him for help?  Do you have trusted friends to give you wise counsel and partner with you?

For me, God gave me His wisdom as I tucked them in at night and got them up in the morning to face another day.  Some days were harder than others.  But I always told my girls we were a Team and we would work together.  I had wonderful, trusted friends who listened, handed me tissue, and prayed for me as I helped my girls to make wise life decisions. It is a priceless investment.

They are now grown women and have their own homes and value systems.  We respect and love each other. As your children leave home, they will have their own value system that they will practice, process, and play out.

Not all children will follow wise, SMART teaching. As their mom you can be the silent partner in their life to pray, pray, pray and love them through it.

“Everything you were taught can be put into a few words:

Respect And Obey God! This is what life is all about.” Ecclesiastes 12:13

 Open your TREASURE CHEST OF WISDOM

  • What issue are you facing with a child right now?
  • Sit with your kids and help them walk through some issues together for a positive solution
  • Remember as you raise your kids, you cannot be a best friend to them but you can be a best mom for them.
  • Ask God for direction
  • Understand as you set healthy boundaries, it will help them as they grow into adulthood
  • Pray and love them in whatever situation they find themselves in

YOU CAN DO THIS!

 

 

 

 

Wisdom From The Wise: COMMON SENSE

Toast and Jam, a toothbrush and toothpaste, and a pair of rubber gloves are like Wisdom and Common Sense.  They belong together and as the Scripture says,

I am Wisdom—Common Sense is my closest friend; I possess knowledge and sound judgement. Proverbs 8:12

As a single mom, there were many times I was tired of having to practice common sense. Why did I have to be responsible with so many life decisions for my little family? Sometimes, I just wanted to ‘fly by the seat of my pants’ so to speak, but then I knew I would pay for it later.

Solomon knew what he was talking saying that common sense is needed to live a better quality of life.

So, I yanked on these pair of these rubber gloves. Wisdom on one hand and Common Sense on my other, and got crackin’.

How do we do this?

  1. ASK

Keep in tune with wisdom and think what it means to have common sense.  Beg as loud as you can for good common sense. Search for wisdom as you would search for silver or hidden treasure.  Then you will understand what it means to respect and to know the Lord God. Proverbs 3: 2-5

Asking is just a prayer away and then listen to God’s heart.

  1. PRACTICE IT

If you have good sense, instruction will help you to have even better sense.  Proverbs 9:9

As you face each week, you will need Wisdom and Common Sense when

  • Issues come up with the children.
  • Issues come up at work.
  • There are certain relationships to deal with. How to deal with toxic people in your life?  If you are to start dating, or needing to end one. What relationships are healing or pulling you down? Is your child is having issues with a kid in her/his school or neighbourhood?
  • Issues of everyday living. Do I buy that dress on the rack? What kind of food budget will get us through this week?
  • Issues to plan your busy lifestyle.

Bottom line, if we ask God and practice wisdom and common sense, the end result will be:

COMMON SENSE + WISDOM=LIVING A SURVIVAL SUCCESSFUL LIFE.

Will it be easy?  Probably not, but as each situation comes and goes, you will find these two friends will empower you to keep moving ahead and strengthen your character. God is there to help you. When you goof (I certainly did that numerous times), learn from them and move ahead.  I know because He has proven over and over that these two friends were there to hold my hands. They will be there for you too!

Remember,

“Everything you were taught can be put into a few words:

Respect And Obey God! This is what life is all about.” Ecclesiastes 12:13

 Open your TREASURE CHEST OF WISDOM

  • Write out Proverbs 8:12 and keep handy.
  • Understand that Wisdom and Common sense are your friends.
  • Ask God to help you with Wisdom.
  • Practice good Common Sense.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

 

 

Wisdom From the Wise: HELLO WISDOM!

Meet Wisdom. Wisdom can be your BFF (best friend forever!). Wisdom will help anyone to think faster than a speeding bullet, be powerful than any vehicle and jump tall buildings in one simple leap!  Oh sorry! That is superman, but if you practice God’s wisdom you will be one super woman!

The All-Wise God gives it freely if we ask. He did that for Solomon. Would you walk with me for a number of weeks as we gleam from the wisest man on earth, King Solomon?

These precious nuggets will help live life to the fullest, help raise the kids, and grow in maturity and wisdom. These proverbs are short and to the point but packed full of insight.

King Solomon says that all wisdom is a gift from God. We sure need wisdom as women, mothers, employees, Christ-followers, and friends. Single Mom’s do not give up.  As you face each week (and some are daunting I know!), each month, and each circumstance, Wisdom gives practical and sound advice to move ahead.

As you read these blogs, my prayer is that you will be encouraged to know you can have wisdom like Solomon because God wants to gift it to you. It is like a treasure chest filled with precious rubies and diamonds yet completely priceless. We just need to ask God for it.

Solomon says, “Proverbs will teach you wisdom and self-control and how to understand sayings with deep meanings. You will learn what is right and honest and fair.” Proverbs 1:2-3

Most of the verses will be from the Book of Proverbs, but as King Solomon ended his second book called Ecclesiastes, it perfectly summarizes true wisdom in Chapter 12:13,

“Everything you were taught can be put into a few words:

Respect And Obey God! This is what life is all about.”

Open your TREASURE CHEST OF WISDOM

  • Write out Ecclesiastes 12:13 and keep it where you can see it.
  • Ask God for His wisdom, you won’t be disappointed.
  • List what you need wisdom for in the next week or so and partner with God for wisdom
  • Learn what is ‘right and honest and fair’.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

 

IN A MANNERS OF SPEAKING: P.L.E.A.S.E!!!

Ever since I can remember, I was taught to say please and then I, in turn, taught my two girls to say this wonderful word. Saying Please softens requests, shows respect, and is a twin to the words, Thank you!

id-100116540I must confess, over the years, I have prayed to God over and over again, asking Him to PLEASE answer my prayer. I mean, really, I knew what was best for me and my children. Surely if I said, please, in my most heartfelt tone; it would come to pass.  Thank the Lord, it didn’t!

If things weren’t going my way, it was easy to start the bargaining game if God would PLEASE answer, then I would be the best for Him in return. I thought I could help God to see the big picture.  It felt like the television show, Let’s make a Deal. Hum…

Maybe you have found yourself in the same shoes that I walked while a single mom.

  • When my ex walked out the door, I begged God to bring him back home.
  • When I wanted a certain house to rent, I begged God to have that particular one.
  • When I was tired of being single, I begged God to bring a man into my life.
  • When I had a painful issue to deal with my ex, I begged God to have things settled now.
  • When I wanted the pain and confusion for my girls to stop, I begged God to stop this roller coaster.
  • When I wanted a certain employment opportunity, I begged God to give me that one!

I did say PLEASE!

prayAll these are valid questions and prayers to ask God. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying please and asking. God wants us to tell him our hearts desires.  However, I found that when I begged and demanded, I lost perspective that God knows best.  With these requests, I had to TRUST God to filter my prayers for life circumstances and decisions.

When I did that, panic and control were no longer in the equation.  In retrospect, I can say that God had things going on behind the scenes I knew nothing about.

I still can start to beg and demand from God saying please when life issues overtake me. I can wipe my tears, blow my nose, and cry out to Him. We all do that because we want to fix life. Then, a quietness overtakes me when I remember,

Please, Lord, hear my prayer and give me the understanding that comes from your word. Psalm 119:169

Asking God to please help and guide us is what we need to do. Trusting Him to work it out is just as necessary.

id-100169204PLEASE! Open Your Toolbox:

  • What are you asking God for right now? Will you trust God with your prayers?
  • Memorize Psalm 119:169

YOU CAN DO THIS!

IN A MANNERS OF SPEAKING: I’m Sorry!

Two words; life changing. Two words; healing. Two words; really, really tough! Two words; so necessary.

id-10098856Saying these words and hearing it said to us can help heal a wounded heart and spirit. No one is perfect so it is imperative to have these words in our toolbox to reach in and take out. The words, I’m sorry, can sometimes be just behind a set of gritted teeth. It is isn’t easy to say those two words, yet the benefits far outweigh holding back.

It isn’t taking blame for something we haven’t done, and not useful to say those words that hold no meaning. Voicing it with sincerity builds character and respect. A humbled heart is a freeing heart.

TWO LITTLE WORDS can help us move ahead in life,

  • When we have lost our temper with the kids. It can be like a salve to their spirit.
  • When we tell our ex-spouse we are sorry for our part in the marriage demise. (There may not be an opportunity to say this due to circumstances, but let God know). It will be a balm to the soul even if the ex may never acknowledge it or continue to blame you.
  • When we goof and say unkind words to the people in our life. Relationships can bring out the best and worst in people. Having those two words at the tip of our tongue can bring about a positive outcome.

Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. James 5:16

  • When we blame God for our state of being a single mother because we aren’t seeing any solution. Confessing our attitude will release us to live a life of true freedom.

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

id-10077229Having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ will be the foundation for a freeing life. It reminds of a trapped butterfly released to soar to what it was called to be. It will guide us into all Truth, will help us raise our kids, and help us when we need to say,

I’m Sorry!

id-100169204OPEN YOUR TOOL BOX:

  • Ask God to guide in all your relationships
  • When you need to say, I’m Sorry, ask God to prepare the way for an opportunity
  • Teach your kids to say, I’m Sorry when it is needed
  • Praise God that He forgives us when we say we are sorry to Him.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

IN A MANNERS OF SPEAKING: A Box of Compliments

Compliments can be a dime a dozen, but SINCERE compliments are like mittens on a cold day, a steaming cup of coffee, and a multi-vitamin to get us through the day!

As single moms true compliments can be like a cold drink walking through the desert. Feelings of inadequacy, a failed marriage, and heavy responsibilities can leave one feeling pretty empty.

Hearing words that I was doing a great job raising my girls or that they were proud of me for standing for Truth  made my heart skip a beat and brought happy tears to my eyes. I wasn’t out looking for compliments but it certainly filled my empty box of emotions.

I know for a fact that some single moms are so desperate for love and affirmation they grab the first man that enters their life. Others used the credit card or alcohol to sooth their hurting heart causing even more grief and even more need of compliments. It is easy to get into that trap.

A truth fact:

id-100259050-1The one steadfast and sure box of compliments comes from God.  He doesn’t lie, he doesn’t manipulate, or leave us if we are in a relationship with Him. (See tab “Relationship with God”).

This is the month of ‘love’ making life feel pretty low on the love ladder for some.  Let’s see what God has to say about us. His compliments are tested and true. We just need to run to Him and let Him lift our spirits and give us a steady foundation for everything that is swirling around us.

  • But I will sing about your strength, my God,and I will celebrate because of your love.You are my fortress,my place of protection in times of trouble. Psalm 59:16
  • Your love is a treasure, and everyone finds shelter in the shadow of your wings. Psalm 36:7
  • The Lord’s kindness never fails!If he had not been merciful,we would have been destroyed.The Lord can always be trusted to show mercy each morning. Lamentations 3:22-23
  • This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. 1 John 4:14 (NIV)
  • He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147: 3 (NIV)

id-100393715God is love and He wants to fill your life box with His true compliments. Remember this,

God wants to invest in your life and encourage you each step of the way.

I know I always say this at the bottom of every blog but it is because I believe it with all my heart.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

Stay strong in God’s Truth and God’s Love and you are going to make it!

ID-100169204Open your tool box: (or your Heart Box)

  • Take one of these complimentary verses and put it to memory. When you have memorized it, go to the next one. They will be like a vitamin.
  • Trust God that He is rooting for you, loves you and your kids, and wants to have a relationship with you.
  • God’s compliments are true blue.
  • Say one sincere compliment to your kids every day this week. Watch how they are encouraged.

  I’ll say it again, YOU CAN DO THIS!