1. Let your kids be kids – Don’t let your kids feel they need to take care of you or be a go between you and your ex. It’s hard enough knowing the people you thought were so in love can’t stand to be in the same room anymore. Let them be kids while they’re kids.
2.Listen to your kids – Let your kids know that you are always there to talk to them. This time in their life is so uncertain, sad and scary. Let them know you will always listen no matter how hard it might be for you to hear some of the stuff they have on their minds.
3.Pray as a family – God is a true healer. Let your kids know that you still love God and you rely on Him every day. Let them learn the true value of God as a healer and friend.
4.Never try to “out do” your ex – There is nothing worse than trying to play the “I’m better than your other parent” game. Kids don’t care about games. What they care about is trying to live as normal of a life as possible and knowing the parent is trying to do that for them.
5.Always be a team – My mother always said “we are a team” and it never left my mind. I always knew that at the end of the day that if my mom, my sister and I had each other’s backs then we could get through anything. Lay in bed together and laugh, go outside and look at the stars, or talk about the tough issues – as long as you’re doing it together!