I asked three women to share on loneliness. It is comforting and reassuring to know that none of us are really alone.
- Cindi McMenamin: I know many women who would rather remain in an unhealthy relationship than to be “alone.” And yet, our alone times can be doorways to discovering a deeper intimacy with God. While we tend to shun loneliness, believing it’s a bad thing, I believe God often LEADS us to a place alone so He can show us a new side of Himself. When I am feeling alone it is then that I see God as my spiritual husband (Isaiah 54:5) and my comforter and confidante. I encourage women to embrace the alone times in their lives as opportunities to let God draw them closer to Himself.
Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and the author of When Women Walk Alone (more than 140,000 copies sold) and 15 other books from Harvest House Publishers. In addition to writing, she is a certified writing and speaking coach who helps women who are aspiring to write and speak about the messages God has placed on their hearts. You can find Cindi at www.StrengthForTheSoul.com
(See Linda’s Library tab for the book as well)
2. Widow Woes by Julie Cosgrove
After the funeral food has been consumed or pitched out, and everyone else has returned to their lives, the idea that you can’t go back to yours begins to seep through the fuzziness of mourning. It doesn’t exist now. You may feel lost in your loss. Loneliness can set in, especially if the children are grown and gone. Even if you go back to work, once you get home, the walls begin to close in, and the silence becomes deafening. But the idea of going out alone just adds salt to the wound. So, you click on the TV and stare at the screen until your eyelids droop. I know. I ‘ve been there. Here are some suggestions that other widows have shared with me. Find other widows as friends, and then get out and do things together. Go to a movie, fix meals together, or walk the mall to get exercise. Join or start a women’s Bible study. If anyone understands where you are in your grief, it’s other widows. Even better, volunteer in a community or church project together. Helping others boosts your mood and gets you out of your woes better than anything else. Like water, stagnation soon begins to muck things up. Keep moving, keep living. Your hubby would want you to do that. And above all else, realize that even though you may feel lonely, you are never alone. Your Father in Heaven has a special love for widows. He will make Himself known and comfort you if you let Him inside your life. He has the glue to mend your broken heart.
Julie B Cosgrove Shining God’s Light Into Your Day Award-winning Author, Devotional Writer, Professional Speaker Missionary Editor/Writer with Power to Change’s The Life Project. The World is Online, We Help Them Know Jesus!
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3. Jennifer Slattery
Jennifer’s article on Crosswalk.com came at just the right time and she was happy to let me share this article. I have copied a couple of her points but the rest of the article is worth the read. Check out the full article on this link from www.Crosswalk.com
10 Reasons Why Women Are Lonely
- Unresolved Past Hurts
Every relational break up or struggle, if not surrendered to Christ, can leave lasting scar tissue and cause inner lies to form, like, “Everyone leaves eventually”, “No one can truly be trusted”, or, “They don’t really care about me.”
To move past those self-defeating and imprisoning lies, we need to mourn our hurts with Jesus, ask Him to reveal our false perceptions, and to give us the courage to embrace relational risk.
The solution: Learn how to resolve conflicts and push through relational difficulties to develop deeper friendships.
- We compare our relationships to everyone else’s filtered highlights.
Our Facebook feeds have become flooded with images of girls’ nights out, happy, smiling families, and perfect date nights. However, we don’t see the fights and frustrations between every posed photograph nor all the nights our friends spend alone viewing everyone else’s posts. Sitting in our quiet living rooms with our crabby children and busy spouses, we may think everyone else’s relationships are stronger, healthier, and more fun.
Our typical response? To join the selfie-craze, if only to prove to others—and ourselves—that we’re not as disconnected as we feel. But this only increases our isolation by keeping us strapped to our computers and living superficially.
However, when we take the time to connect with others face to face, we discover most of us experience hurts, conflict, and moments of loneliness and isolation. We may even find the friend our hearts long for.
The solution: Foster authentic, face to face relationships and view social media much like you do reality television—based on truth but heavily doctored for entertainment value.
Jennifer Slattery is a writer, editor, and speaker who’s addressed women’s groups, church groups, Bible studies, and writers across the nation. She’s the author of six contemporary novels and maintains a devotional blog found athttp://jenniferslatterylivesoutloud.com. She has a passion for helping women discover, embrace, and live out who they are in Christ. As the founder of Wholly Loved Ministries, (http://whollyloved.com) she and her team partner with churches to facilitate events designed to help women rest in their true worth and live with maximum impact.
Thank you, Ladies for sharing!
I pray that these last few weeks will fill you with HOPE and HELP when loneliness fills your heart giving you helpful resources for a positive RX script. We will have times of loneliness but in those times it can be used for positive growth. Our true RX script is to reach out to Jesus who had times of great loneliness and does understand your heart. Search the Scriptures. How about the Psalms or the Book of Ephesians? https://www.bible.com/
Thanks for walking this short series with me. I hope you have been encouraged.
As always, YOU CAN DO THIS!