BE LIKE AGUR

He wasn’t a talk show host or an accredited counselor but he had good advice for living life.  This is what he said,

There are two things, Lord, I want you to do for me before I die: Make me absolutely honest and don’t let me be too poor or too rich.  Give me just what I need.  Proverbs 30: 8 (CEV)

Sounds simple enough right?  Well…

  1. Living a life of honesty is not only honorable but in obedience to God as a Christ-follower. Sadly, being absolutely honest is not the norm in our society. Agur was wise to ask God to help him to be honest in all he did. Decisions we make, what we say, and how we live out each day need to be God-breathed in us as soon as morning peeks in our window and when we pull the covers over us at bedtime.

The challenge is to MAKE ME ABSOLUTELY HONEST.

  1. No one wants to be poor and having riches seem so less stressful for living life. Lottery ticket booths are lined up in hopes of gaining financial freedom.  A new title and pay raise at work give us room to breathe and even excitement to buy some new toys. It would mean we don’t have to rip our wallets apart looking for that ten-dollar bill we thought we had, or peek at our bank account in hopes we haven’t gone into overdraft.

So why did he say JUST GIVE ME WHAT I NEED?

This unknown man understood the problems that come when too poor or too rich.  He wanted God to take care of him.  When people leave God out of their desire to balance life for honesty and provisions it goes off kilter.

As an aside, you might be interested in this article of very wealthy people who use what they have for God’s glory.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/briansolomon/2012/09/18/david-green-the-biblical-billionaire-backing-the-evangelical-movement/#54ca171c5807

Those who are single parents, you are most likely in the ‘don’t make me too poor’ lifestyle.  Prayers for help to make ends meet, a working vehicle, kid’s braces, or some cash to take the kiddos on a little excursion are all needed in life.  I have been there. What I found in Agur’s statement, just give me what I need, has been true.  An unexpected car repair, an upcoming mortgage payment, and stress from the work place to live a life of integrity were apart of my life. He gave me what I needed and then some.

Agur knew the true meaning of life by placing things in perspective.  Living a life of honesty and letting God give us what we need equals a life of peace and a prosperity that money or status cannot buy.  As David Green of Hobby Lobby says, “It’s God’s anyway”.

Without a doubt, life will hit us as we try and live an honest life while asking God to us give us just  what we need.  I appreciate Agur’s Reality on life. We have the same choices as him.

To-Do List this week:

  1. Be Honest
  2. Ask God to give us just what we need

YOU CAN DO THIS…WE ALL CAN!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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HOLD ON and LET GO!

I am working at doing two things:  Holding On and Letting Go. Yes, it has been a teeter-totter ride.

While a single mom, I had to take charge. Taking care of a home, raising my children, and working full-time meant it was all about schedules and routine so our life could hold some sort of saneness. For me, I had to hold on or I felt I would fall off the perverbal teeter-totter that our lives where on.

As the years have ticked on, I am still working hard to know when to Hold On and when to Let Go. It is a tough exercise. Maybe you are working through this as well. We can work on this together!

HOLD ON

  1. Promises of God

Google estimates at least 3000+ promises in the Bible.  Whatever the count, that is a bunch of promises to claim!  Sadly, in our world, unkept promises are the norm. Possibly, one being your marriage.  What a comfort that God, who controls the world, gives us so many promises to help us Hold On.

The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Deuteronomy 31:8

     2. Hope

We all need hope because it drives us forward.  Having a balance of hope with reality can be tricky. For myself, facing reality meant understanding there were things I had let go of even though I didn’t want to. For other decisions, I knew I needed to hold on with hope and fight for it. When I felt so defeated and sad, I claimed hope and partnered with reality checks.

LET GO

  1. Things we cannot control

Even though I know I cannot control everything, I still want to do that.  Some days it is one step forward, and 10 steps back!

I understand that my life could be less stressful, more calming, and peace-filled when I can release it. Be encouraged, we all can do this with God’s help.  Understanding it is a work in progress can help take the pressure off.

Jackson Kiddard said, “Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go”.

How about you?

  • Are there things your loved ones need help with and yet you have to stand back?
  • Is your ex making choices that you have no control over?
  • Are you adult kids making decisions that you feel are unsafe or unwise?
  • Is your co-worker a pain in the neck?

I have learned when I try and take things into my own hands and control things, it can backfire. It has taken a while for me to learn this. Truth is if we can go to God and trust Him, we are well on our way of letting go. The situation may not change, but we have let go and let God take over. He knows all about it and knows best anyway.

  1. Past hurts and habits

These can dictate our thought patterns and how we react to situations.  Sometimes, we like to stuff those emotions and hurts away, but until it can be faced and worked on, they will keep re-surfacing.  I was grateful for the time I spent with a counselor to work through issues and hurts so I could face forward.

The first step is to identity the destructive hurts and habits.  Then the following steps will begin to free yourself as you let go.

  1. Upcoming events

Just when we get a grip and start to have victory, WHAM…life happens. Just when I think I’m at the top of my class in LETTING GO 101…I am fighting to hold on instead of letting go.

But’s that’s okay. Remember we are a work in progress. Just keep Holding On and Letting go. It may take falling off the teeter-totter to our knees so we can ask God to help us work through it. Just keep at it. You will begin to have your feet planted on the ground as you HOLD ON and LET GO!

I have not yet reached my goal, and I am not perfect. But Christ has taken hold of me. So I keep on running and struggling to take hold of the prize. Philippians 3:12

OPEN YOUR TOOL BOX

  • What things are you facing right now that having you feeling like you are on a teeter-totter?
  • Have hope as you let go and allow God to help you.
  • You are not alone…we are all having to HOLD ON and LET GO.
  • Claim those two Bible verses to help you move forward.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

SHELTERED

Doesn’t it feel good to be snuggled in a warm blanket, or given a warm, tight hug from someone?  When the weather becomes nasty and the wind is circling home, it feels nice to be tucked inside. So many nasty storms have affected our world even as I type. Storms come whether it is a weather system or a storm in our personal life.  Both can affect us greatly.

Having a strong and safe shelter surrounding our heart is comforting with life storms hit and we find it hard to stand. Over the years, I have found that the Shelter of the All-Mighty God has given me peace and great comfort when I don’t understand why the storm had to come in the first place!

He promises in Psalm 91:4, He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.

[BTW, rampart means a thick, defensive wall of a city]

When covered by His Wings,

  1. God Protects Us: No one will have a perfect, trial-free life. God asks us to come to Him and rest under His wings. If we are Christ-followers, we have the promise of eternity someday with Him. We also have the assurance that He will never abandon us in our personal journey.
  2. God gives us Peace: When everything is whirling around us, He give us His peace that we cannot explain. But, we can feel it in our hearts. What a wonderful gift.
  3. God Provides: He gives us what we need in times of life’s storms. It might not be the answer we think we need, but He knows what is best. We have to trust Him in this.

I remember singing an old hymn growing up.  I think the older I get, the words become dearer to my heart. William Orcutt Cushing wrote,

Under His wings—what a refuge in sorrow!
How the heart yearningly turns to His rest!
Often when earth has no balm for my healing,
There I find comfort, and there I am blest
. (verse 3)

https://www.hymnal.net/en/hymn/h/565

  • Are you needing to come under God’s Sheltered wings?
  • Do you know you can find rest for your weary soul, and a calm shelter when the storm is circling?
  • God wants you to come to Him for your safe shelter. He loves you that much!
  • The Easter season reminds us of God’s sacrifice. He gave His Son to take our place and the promise of His sheltered wings as we journey and walk in storms of life.

You can do this!

The Grass Seems Greener

I’m so excited to see my perennial plants start to peek through the ground.  It means a new season is upon us.

Just like the re-starting of my little plants, new starts and a fresh perspective can perk us up. For me, it is time to dust off my bicycle seat, replace my winter boots with running shoes, and put away the heavy winter wear in exchange for a wind breaker.  I love when the stores display Easter lilies, bright place mats and napkins, and sell pretty potted plants and herbs to sit in the window sill.

While a single mom, it meant breathing fresh life into my lungs as the girls and I struck for the outdoor adventures.  It was also a time to re-new some goals and plan ahead for the next few months.

Grass can look greener on someone else’s life in comparison to what life was handed to us. For some it was a choice they hadn’t asked for.  For me, I took some time to pause and gain a refreshed perspective and work on the shade of green that would push me forward. To be honest, some times that shade was pretty brown and dead looking. It meant a determined decision to work through some tough issues.

  • Was I working at being content as a single parent?
  • What attitudes could I tweak to have a better view of what life had handed me?
  • When others seemed to be moving on with some exciting happenings, could I stop looking over the fence saying the grass is greener for them and saying ‘poor me’?
  • What positive words could I use to encourage my children in their development?
  • Was I trusting God to lead me through this stage in my life and believe my shade of green was going to be OK?

Truly, grass is green on our little spot in the world; we just have to look for it. Being thankful for little things and grateful for day-to-day happenings can make our shade of green special and richer. It doesn’t mean we have to agree with everything, but we can choose to have a make it or break it view on life.

What shade of green life grass will you grow in the next few months?

OPEN YOUR TOOL BOX:

  • What tools will you use to help you grow this season?
  • List some new shade of green attitudes for your family.
  • Brush off your shoes and make some new memories with your kids.
  • Enjoy your SHADE of Green in your life yard.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

 

 

My Story..and Encouragement for Single Parents

Here is a bit of  my story with a time of question-and-answer to some of life’s challenges I went through as a single parent. The station is  AM 700 The Light.

Paste this link into your browser on FRIDAY, MARCH 29TH AT 6:30 pm Mountain Daylight time or 8:30pm Eastern Daylight time….or whatever your time is! 🙂

https://www.cjli.ca/

May you be encouraged and blessed.

YOU CAN DO THIS!  Linda

 

 

 

C.H.A.N.G.E

For most of us, day-to-day routines and doing life become like a pair of well-worn slippers or a comfy sweatshirt. Most times, we can adjust to upcoming changes and work through it. Other times well, it is pretty tough.

Sometimes life hits us sideways, knocking the air out of our lungs. Single parenting is not for the faint of heart and changes can come faster then the speed of lighting.  It happened to me when my ex-spouse said he loved someone else, had found his soul mate, and left.

Changes can come in a variety of ways.

  • Your spouse has decided to ‘leave the building’
  • You can’t make him/her love you
  • You and your kids struggle with grief and adjustments (that can be an understatement)
  • Financial hardship
  • The gossip people say about your family
  • The emptiness and loneliness inside your heart
  • Loss of friends and his/her side of the family
  • Feelings of shame and feeling not good enough
  • A move or giving up a home because of the divorce negotiations
  • Health issues appear and you don’t have someone to be with you
  • Learning to do things on your own without a spouse

I have just touched the surface, but I think you understand and know that change is part of your life for a time.  It was for me.  It was like starting at ground zero to figure out who I was, how to parent alone, and what on earth would I do for a career as the bread-winner for the three of us.

I have to say, and I know it is hindsight, but the CHANGES that happened in my life made me who I am today. I will never agree with the choices I was left with but I took these changes and began to make a new life. Many times, changes have been forced because of someone else’s choice and that can be a hard pill to swallow.  News Break! You don’t have to be defeated, but a winner!

Changes made me realize

  • Who I yield To. My life is about being a Christ-follower. That is first and foremost and I can work through life with Him. It was during that time, I learned what my faith was all about, learned from the Bible, and trusted God to help me move forward.
  • Who I am Today. I am divorced, single mom, re-married now, author, mentor, business owner, farmers wife and book reviewer. This change gave me the opportunity to spread my wings and learn to fly as the God-gifted Linda I could be. New opportunities continue to come and I am forever grateful.
  • Who I can Encourage. With my past, I can help others who are walking this journey. I believe I understand some of their heartache, their struggles, and their new journey. I also mentor women who are struggling with life and pray with them.  What an awesome opportunity.  I wrote a book to help single parents (and for those who are walking beside them) to help them understand they are not alone.

Single Mom Survival Success: Tools and Tips for the Journey. (Check out Amazon)

A lady approached me a few weeks back and said she had bought the book for her daughter but read it first because she was a widow and had been in a new relationship that didn’t pan out. She said it really helped her in her Christian walk.

Dear ones, changes can be so positive and exciting.  Single Parent, you have a journey ahead of you that is unknown and it may be tough right now.  Don’t give up!  There can be so many positive changes despite the negative ones.  Soon they will outnumber the yucky ones.  Use this time to build up your life, make new choices, and let God be your Tour Guide.  He is awesome!

We can be assured as it says in Hebrews 13:8, Jesus Christ never Changes! He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

Let Him help you through all these C. H. A. N. G. E. S.

OPEN YOUR TOOL BOX:

  • Identify your hardest change
  • What steps can you make to make some positive changes?
  • Understand that some changes are not your doing
  • Do you trust God to help you through these changes?

YOU CAN DO THIS!

 

 

Dust Bunnies and Clutter

I have a colony of dust bunnies in my home and they are only to happy to take up residence. I am often astounded when I get down on my knees to vacuum under the bed and couches.  It seems as soon as I get rid of a family of dust, more arrive. With busy schedules and appointments, sometimes they accumulate and I have to take them head on!

Isn’t that just like life.  It is so easy to collect dust bunnies and clutter which take up unnecessary space in our heart. With that dreaded chore of spring cleaning (what is that anyway?) why don’t we also take time to de-clutter that unnecessary life dust and clutter that keep our heart from healing and bringing a ‘spring’ in our step.

Do these dust bunnies clutter your heart?

Dust Bunny #1: Bitterness– allowing painful and hurtful situations to harden the heart without dealing with it.

Dust Bunny #2: Bondage to lies – not believing what is Truth so issues are kept in bondage.

Dust Bunny #3: Beauty-less– feelings of worthlessness and comparing to someone else.

Dust Bunny #4: Blaming God- not willing to accept that God isn’t to blame despite unfair situations.

Dust Bunny #5: Brashness (attitude)- Letting stinging thinking cloud perspective on life so there is no option to see beauty and positive situations.

Corrie Ten Boom, a Jewish victim of the Nazi Holocaust, experienced horrific life experiences but chose to get rid of dust bunnies in her life.  She said,

Happiness isn’t something that depends on our surroundings…it’s something we make inside ourselves.

Life isn’t all rosy and many times unfair.  We know that for sure. Honestly, there are days when I am tired of fighting the dust bunnies and clutter that keep true freedom from reigning. It’s too hard, too much work, and too painful. I want to throw up the white dust flag of defeat.  Sometimes it is hard to remember the past positive experiences that brought peace. Do you feel that way?

God never promised us a perfect life  here on earth but a life He would walk alongside us and help us through it. It is with that belief, we can be well on our way to clearing the clutter whether of bitterness, brashness, blaming, and selfless-love to understand we are worth fighting for.  Each victory, whether small or large is a success.

Let the Spirit change your way of thinking and make you into a new person. Ephesians 4:23

Spring cleaning can begin right away even if the wintry weather is still fighting to stay. If we can let the Holy Spirit change our way of thinking and look at what life can be, Springtime has arrived!

So instead of:

  • Bitterness  choose Joy.
  • Bondage to lies choose Truth
  • Beauty-less choose inner Beauty and Self-worth
  • Blaming God choose Trusting in His goodness
  • Brashness (attitude) choose a Positive outlook

It’s time to fight the Dust Bunnies and clutter….

GRAB YOUR VACUUM CLEANER AND DUST RAG

  • What dust bunny do you struggle with the most?
  • What steps can you take to begin to vacuum up and get rid of it?
  • Do you trust God to help you de-clutter and have victory?
  • Begin to know and believe you can have victory, one step at a time.

YOU CAN DO THIS!