Do these situations sound familiar? You have stood, in the pouring rain, at your kid’s school field day cheering them on. Proudly took pictures of the ballerina performances and music recitals. Do you remember watching in horror as your child got flattened on the soccer field and you reach for your phone ready to call 911? It’s was the time when you wiped the tears from your face as they head off to prom, or you found yourself on your knees in prayer watching them leave the driveway alone for the first time. It’s watching them graduate from college as proud as punch, or clinching a tissue watching them say their wedding vows hoping and praying things will be just fine.
The scenarios are endless, but as parents we would give our right arm to encourage our kids to be the best they can be. Some children may never say thank you, some won’t ever understand the impact, and others will be very grateful.
Whatever the situations, encouragement is so important to every child. It is important to understand that giving true praise is not making our kids prideful. It is helping them see their giftedness and giving them confidence so when things come up in life they are able to handle it better. Encouragement isn’t about the dollar amount, the size of the home, or the latest fashion sense. It’s about the heart condition and making our kids realize their important worth.
I hear adults saying how a school teacher said that could be anything they wanted to be, or momma’s (and dad’s too!) being so proud of their kids and telling them they are so special. I can still remember the positive words spoken to me. They are tucked in a part of my heart that beats for part of who I am today.
Raising my girls, I wanted them to know they were important. By no means was I perfect. In retrospect, I missed some important discussion times, timely hugs, and there were times I gave more advice when I should have just listened. However, they knew I loved them and we were a Team.
How can we encourage our kids? Here are some suggestions that I try and implement.
- Learn about each child’s dreams and aspirations. Help them to define it and ask them all kinds of questions. Engage in who they are. Why not work together to research and communicate about those dreams? As they kids grow older their dreams will change and their life passions will become more defined. Not every girl will want to become a princess or every boy a transformer! Ha Ha
- Commit to praying for your individual children and their passions for life. (Don’t forget to pray for their possible spouse as well!) Share Jesus with them. Help them understand the wonderful eternal journey they can have and let them know that God is the author of dreams and goals!
- If they fall, let them know you are there. Keep encouraging them for the next chapter in their life. Sometimes, we can only stand at the sidelines feeling like our hands tied. Truth may be that kids don’t want help, so respect that. Assure them you are always there so they know. That is a hard thing for Mommas to do. So…. go back to #2.
- Keep on giving words of encouragement. Technology is wonderful so we can talk back and forth instantly. My one daughter is overseas right now and I am very grateful for the tools to not only talk but see her wonderful face and hear her laugh.
Encouragement is a precious gift we can give our children. We all need it. It helps us move ahead, to help define who we are, and can give us the push to be all we can be.
- If you are able, check in with your child and give them a word of encouragement
- Pray for each of your children to grow into who they were created to be
- Help your kids to dream
- If your children are not speaking with you, pray for them. Ask God to open doors so you can encourage them in small ways. Pray for truth.
- Understand your encouragement is a wonderful gift to give each of your children
YOU CAN DO THIS!