I am working at doing two things: Holding On and Letting Go. Yes, it has been a teeter-totter ride.
While a single mom, I had to take charge. Taking care of a home, raising my children, and working full-time meant it was all about schedules and routine so our life could hold some sort of saneness. For me, I had to hold on or I felt I would fall off the perverbal teeter-totter that our lives where on.
As the years have ticked on, I am still working hard to know when to Hold On and when to Let Go. It is a tough exercise. Maybe you are working through this as well. We can work on this together!
- Promises of God
Google estimates at least 3000+ promises in the Bible. Whatever the count, that is a bunch of promises to claim! Sadly, in our world, unkept promises are the norm. Possibly, one being your marriage. What a comfort that God, who controls the world, gives us so many promises to help us Hold On.
The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Deuteronomy 31:8
We all need hope because it drives us forward. Having a balance of hope with reality can be tricky. For myself, facing reality meant understanding there were things I had let go of even though I didn’t want to. For other decisions, I knew I needed to hold on with hope and fight for it. When I felt so defeated and sad, I claimed hope and partnered with reality checks.
- Things we cannot control
Even though I know I cannot control everything, I still want to do that. Some days it is one step forward, and 10 steps back!
I understand that my life could be less stressful, more calming, and peace-filled when I can release it. Be encouraged, we all can do this with God’s help. Understanding it is a work in progress can help take the pressure off.
Jackson Kiddard said, “Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go”.
How about you?
- Are there things your loved ones need help with and yet you have to stand back?
- Is your ex making choices that you have no control over?
- Are you adult kids making decisions that you feel are unsafe or unwise?
- Is your co-worker a pain in the neck?
I have learned when I try and take things into my own hands and control things, it can backfire. It has taken a while for me to learn this. Truth is if we can go to God and trust Him, we are well on our way of letting go. The situation may not change, but we have let go and let God take over. He knows all about it and knows best anyway.
- Past hurts and habits
These can dictate our thought patterns and how we react to situations. Sometimes, we like to stuff those emotions and hurts away, but until it can be faced and worked on, they will keep re-surfacing. I was grateful for the time I spent with a counselor to work through issues and hurts so I could face forward.
The first step is to identity the destructive hurts and habits. Then the following steps will begin to free yourself as you let go.
- Upcoming events
Just when we get a grip and start to have victory, WHAM…life happens. Just when I think I’m at the top of my class in LETTING GO 101…I am fighting to hold on instead of letting go.
But’s that’s okay. Remember we are a work in progress. Just keep Holding On and Letting go. It may take falling off the teeter-totter to our knees so we can ask God to help us work through it. Just keep at it. You will begin to have your feet planted on the ground as you HOLD ON and LET GO!
I have not yet reached my goal, and I am not perfect. But Christ has taken hold of me. So I keep on running and struggling to take hold of the prize. Philippians 3:12
- What things are you facing right now that having you feeling like you are on a teeter-totter?
- Have hope as you let go and allow God to help you.
- You are not alone…we are all having to HOLD ON and LET GO.
- Claim those two Bible verses to help you move forward.
YOU CAN DO THIS!