“He loves me, he loves me not”.  Remember playing that game as a kid? I just HAD to know if that boy in my primary class really loved me!  What a silly game! I was reminded of that on yet another bike ride by our home.

Truth is, sometimes we do that in real life. Everyone desires to be loved and appreciated.  When a relationship and marriage breakdown occurs, it leaves scars and questioning if it was all our fault or if we will ever be loved again.

Let’s visit our own ‘Whoville’

Who I was

Many of us regret our past. We question ourselves, wondering If I had just listened, if I hadn’t rushed, if I had trusted God more, if I had used my words better, if I was thinner or  if I was a better parent,  IF, IF, IF….

Many are living with the consequences of their own choices. Also, many are living the consequences of someone else’s poor choices. Some of us are living both.

Our self-esteem has been knocked down and we stand there saying this phrase wondering who really loves us.

Who I am

I am a twin, but I still have my own DNA set apart for me. God decided that I am right where I am today. He believes that for you. You have your own set of DNA and you are living in 2018!

Today marks a new day, a new beginning, and a new sense of self-worth. Will you take the challenge? Life won’t become all roses and fairy tales.  It is hard work, but the foundation for you to get out of bed every day is knowing God will walk with you. He knows how you tick and how you think, so ask Him! 🙂

I don’t need to play that silly game of ‘he loves me, He loves me not’…there is no need to question God.  He is trustworthy, He passionately loves me, and believes in me. Others may fail, but He does not. I can rest assured, whatever comes my way, He is rooting for me to do what is true, what is right, and what is God-honouring. You can be assured too.

I have loved you, just as my Father has loved me. So remain faithful to my love for you. John 15:9 (CEV)

Who I will become

That is the bottom line.  For me, I had to start at ground zero.  What were my likes, dislikes, my giftedness, my strengths and weakness, beginning to  love myself for who I really was, and make some new goals to work toward.

If you take some time to do that, it will be worthwhile and fulfilling. It’s not a race, so take your time. Sit with a cup of coffee or tea, and be still before God.  Sharpen your pencil and begin. You will begin to heal, begin to enjoy life, and have purpose.

How do you do that? Here are some suggestions that helped me.

  1. Seek God with all your heart.
  2. Forgive yourself.
  3. Make a list of what you like to do or think you might like to do.
  4. Ask a good friend for some perspective and then take time to analyze that.
  5. Seek a counselor or spiritual leader for some wisdom.
  6. Take a step forward and then,

…let the adventure begin.


  • Next time you walk by a daisy, smile and know that God loves you without a doubt.
  • Make some time for you to re-visit personal goals, personal needs, and family issues.
  • Ask God for His help. He is already waiting. He loves you, He loves you!








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