Everywhere we look there is Christmas lights, Christmas movies on the television, a tree with homemade decorations and twinkly lights. ‘Tis the season of Peace and Joy, but maybe your heart feels void of that?
For some, Christmas is a reminder of a hurtful and painful memories. A loved one has passed away, a child is overseas, or a divorce still vibrates off the walls of your home. Christmas was like that for me for a number of years. I was now a single mom planning Christmas for my girls. I had a good support system but it was still hard to process Christmas present with Christmas past. It meant a conscious effort to make new traditions and new memories while slowly moving ahead.
The traditions the girls and I made weren’t enormous. In fact, they were the little things we did that gave me a sense of joy despite the circumstances. It was baking together, picking a silly Christmas movie to watch with a bowl of popcorn, sleeping by the tree, or driving around looking at the lights.
The word, New, can become the new normal. It won’t erase the old memories, but it will help for a new life with new traditions. What do you think you and your kids could do this year for a new tradition? Maybe it will build on an old one or be something totally different.
What about these suggestions:
- volunteering at a mission or soup kitchen during this season
- make cookies for some neighbours ( I know you will have a mess to clean up)
- make handmade Christmas cards for the people on your street?
- Find another single parent and kids and go see the Christmas lights? When there was opportunity, we would go to a live nativity production.
- Check out your local town’s festive schedule and see if there is something that interests you.
- Check out the numerous free concerts and productions to attend at local churches.
My favourite verse talks about new traditions,
Forget what happened long ago!
Don’t think about the past.
I am creating something new.
There it is! Do you see it? Isaiah 43: 18, 19b (CEV)
So…Fa la la…’Tis the Season to make new traditions….the sky is the limit! You will be glad you did.
- Make a point to try one new tradition this season. If that one doesn’t work, try another
- Remind yourself that the word, NEW, can be a good and positive thing
- There will always be a past, but you can make the best of the present
- Memorize Isaiah 43:18, 19b
YOU CAN DO THIS!