We all know that gossip can be so destructive. Those words can be found in coffee shops, around kitchen tables, the grocery isle, the kid’s sports field, social media, ad infinitum causing fabrication and trouble.
We also know people in our circle of life who love to gossip. They live for it and believe everything they hear. (And it’s not just women, but men too!) Gossip can start out very innocently and does not end well. I know that because I have been on the end of vivacious gossip and sadly, have gossiped as well.
Let’s look at two types of Gossip
- Those that gossip about you
Some live to share news whether they know it is true or not. They love an audience and for some, it takes eyes off their own personal lifestyle. Solomon says this,
There’s nothing so delicious as the taste of gossip! It melts in your mouth. Proverbs 18:8
It all seems so appealing. He also says that “dishonest people use gossip to destroy their neighbours; good people are protected by their own good sense.” Proverbs 11:9
While on this earth, people will talk about us behind our back. For single moms, people can place judgement and assumptions that are far from the truth. Nothing good comes from gossip. It hurts and causes damage.
Solomon has quite a bit to say about ‘the grapevine’. Foolish talk will get you into a lot of trouble. Saying foolish things is like setting a trap to destroy yourself. Proverbs 18: 6-8
We need to stay clear of gossipers and certainly not share anything that is precious. Kindly bow out and say you would rather not comment at this time.
- If we Gossip
I am an outgoing person so I love to connect and have a good chat. Therefore, I have to be cautious and ask God for His wisdom of what comes from my mouth. I want to be a true blue friend and certainly don’t want to cause grief and hurt others. I hate when people gossip about me so I desire to extend wise words or simply not join in a conversation that is headed that way.
You will say the wrong thing if you talk too much—so be sensible and watch what you say. Proverbs 10:19
I have tremendous respect for some women in my life that I trust not to spread gossip. We all need girlfriends in our life that can hear us lay it all on the table without fear of it spreading. Then we can work together to gain perspective, encourage each other, and stay far from gossip.
Gossip is no good! It causes hard feelings and comes between friends. Proverbs 16:28
If tempted to say something that might start gossip, pinch the lips together, count to ten, and ask God to help slowly separate the lips. Being wise in using our words show strong character for a living a life of wisdom.
It can be difficult when the ex is spreading gossip and some of your ‘friends’ believe it. It hurts to the core. If you have been gossiped about, ask God to reveal Truth in His time. You can defend yourself but watch the steps to do it in ways that are God-honouring.
To this day, I have a friend who is being lied about because the other person doesn’t want to see their own personal truth. What a sad way to live! I respect my friend’s willingness to let God open doors of Truth….His Truth. It’s not an easy road but God can take that grapevine and rip it apart so no bad fruit continues.
We all have a choice. What we say and how we deal with what is said is key. God’s wisdom is the way to deal with life’s grapevine.
“Everything you were taught can be put into a few words:
Respect And Obey God! This is what life is all about.” Ecclesiastes 12:13
- Keep clear of gossip, it never ends well
- Guard your tongue in how you speak
- Teach your children to speak truth
YOU CAN DO THIS!