I remember feeling so exhausted. I didn’t feel I had much left to give when trying to teach my children life issues. After a long day at the office, adding household duties, helping them with their homework, and cracking open my own homework, it was easy just to want to give in.
I mean their life has dramatically changed and it would be hard for them to be disappointed again, right? Have you felt that way? It was tough when they argued or got upset when they couldn’t have what they wanted. I was already feeling like a failure from a dead marriage.
Single moms, it is tough stuff. However, don’t give up. Keep setting safe boundaries and pursing to train them to be wise as they grow into adulthood. You may not see the benefits as they stomp off to their room, but it will be positive down the road.
It has been said that children need good, healthy boundaries and even though they don’t understand it, they feel more secure. Raising kids to be not only street smart but life smart is a precious gift.
King Solomon said, “Children with good sense accept correction from their parents, but stubborn children ignore it completely”. Proverbs 13:1
It involves determination, even though exhausted, to stand firm and help your children make wise choices. It takes time to sit with them, ask them their thoughts and work through a positive solution.
God has gifted you with your precious children and He thinks you will do an amazing job. Have you asked Him for help? Do you have trusted friends to give you wise counsel and partner with you?
For me, God gave me His wisdom as I tucked them in at night and got them up in the morning to face another day. Some days were harder than others. But I always told my girls we were a Team and we would work together. I had wonderful, trusted friends who listened, handed me tissue, and prayed for me as I helped my girls to make wise life decisions. It is a priceless investment.
They are now grown women and have their own homes and value systems. We respect and love each other. As your children leave home, they will have their own value system that they will practice, process, and play out.
Not all children will follow wise, SMART teaching. As their mom you can be the silent partner in their life to pray, pray, pray and love them through it.
“Everything you were taught can be put into a few words:
Respect And Obey God! This is what life is all about.” Ecclesiastes 12:13
- What issue are you facing with a child right now?
- Sit with your kids and help them walk through some issues together for a positive solution
- Remember as you raise your kids, you cannot be a best friend to them but you can be a best mom for them.
- Ask God for direction
- Understand as you set healthy boundaries, it will help them as they grow into adulthood
- Pray and love them in whatever situation they find themselves in
YOU CAN DO THIS!