The Cherry on the Top of Self-Control

I stand at my kitchen counter flipping through my Weight Watcher® books.  What will I choose today within my point system? My lack of self-control in the food area and that magical age of middle age has me needing this fruit called Self-Control.

The Apostle Paul said,

 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. Romans 7:18-20 (NIV)

This certainly is a tongue twister and it seems Paul was just as frustrated as me with life.  I want to say the right thing, act a certain way, have a good plan of action and then BAM…, I did the opposite! Groan!  Human nature is always at battle against God’s best way. That is why we need a daily dose of the Fruit of the Spirit.

Every part of our being needs God’s Fruit of Self-Control. Self-Control happens when:

  • Someone says something unkind to you
  • Your ex is lying about you and blaming the marriage break up on you
  • Your mind won’t stop thinking about how life is unfair
  • You want that new blouse but you know your budget won’t allow it this month
  • Loneliness has consumed your heart so you decide to date even though you know the time is not right
  • You are too tired to exercise so you put it off for another night
  • You just want to watch TV instead of doing something with your kids

ID-100361712 (1)Have mercy! Give me some much needed Fruit!!!

Lysa Terkeurst, President of Proverbs 31 Ministries, wrote a book called Made to Crave. On page 51, five words have left an imprint on my heart.  She said, ‘We were made for more’. She believes in this Fruit of Self-Control and continues to say on pg. 62, ‘Not only does the Spirit live in us, but He is active and infuses power to our lives that is beyond what we could possibly muster up on our own’.

I put a link in my Linda’s Library but you can check it out at

Self-control is a constant struggle. Does this sound familiar? The diet and exercise program lasts one day, you lash out at your ex, you tell anyone and everyone how life is downright unfair, you buy that blouse on credit, you dial the number to go on a date, you become a couch potato with a bowl of buttery popcorn while the kids are vying for your attention.

GOOD NEWS!  Grab this Fruit instead. Ask God for help to:

  • Bite your tongue when someone says something unkind
  • Stop gossiping and trying to get even with your ex despite his nastiness while he enjoys his new life. I know, I know…a toughie!
  • Begin to think more positively about the good things in your life. It may be hard to find, but it is there…dig deep!
  • Keep the credit card in your purse or under your mattress this month. This piece of clothing will probably be on sale next month and if not, there will always be another gorgeous blouse when you can afford it!
  • Take some time with your children to do something fun to blast away the fat of loneliness which will also encourage your children. The couch will be waiting for you later and hang on for God’s timing about dating.

cherriesSelf-control is against all that is human! Having this Fruit in your Life Bowl will help you be victorious when the ‘going gets tough’ ….which is basically every day! When you have this fruit in your life, it will be like the cherry on top!

Just as Paul was frustrated with trying to do the right thing, he also knew that there is help through Jesus Christ. We have the same option with Self-control.

Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! vs 25 (NIV)


ID-100169204OPEN YOUR TOOL BOX: Such decisions and choices!

  • You are not alone! God will help you work through Self-Control issues
  • Ask a trusted Friend to help you be accountable to some areas of your life
  • Taste this fruit each morning to give you a good start to the day of decisions and choices

Next Week:  Checking in on Your Life Bowl





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