It seemed every school year brought new social changes. A new set of classmates, a new teacher, and new math! Groan! It came in with a bang and didn’t stop until the next summer holidays.
Every momma wants to protect their baby lambs. Doing it alone (even if the dad is around to help out) takes determination to emotionally support the kids. I really struggled when classmates were cruel to the girls.
The old English saying, Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me doesn’t hold true. Cruel and mean words hurt to the core when friendships are so important. What a schoolmate says to your child will probably soon be forgotten by that kid, but for your child it may stay buried if not dealt with. Bullying has become a major issue in our schools.
That is where we Momma Sheep come in. You can advocate for your kids. Children need the freedom to express what happened without you running to the phone and screaming at the parent, or heading to the principal’s office at 7:30am the next morning. It may mean a call to the parent, or a trip to the office but looking into their eyes and listening to those sticks and stones comments will help them as they move through life.
Our precious children need to sense the home is a safe haven to speak their mind. Then, a solution can begin. God knew about harsh and mean words. He has been mocked for thousands of years and still is. Who better to turn to when this happens. He says in,
Proverbs 15:1, A kind answer soothes angry feelings, but harsh words stir them up.
As children learn how to respond by setting boundaries it will help them now and into adulthood. Believe me, there were times when I wanted to give the parents a piece of my mind, or pick up the phone but I had to process things, ask God to guide me, and work through this in a positive manner for my kids. One situation in particular needed immediate attention. Whatever the other family’s response became was their choice. I knew I had done my best to deal with the situation by protecting my little lambs.
This momma sheep had to deal with bullying each year. What I wanted my girls to understand was they were precious lambs in God’s sight and He would walk beside them. They knew their momma would do her best to protect and help them too. My heart ached probably more than them and yet I had to claim the same promise… A kind answer soothes angry feelings, but harsh words stir them up. I needed all of God’s wisdom to work with each situation.
I kept an open communication with parents, teachers, and my kids. It is a tough go! I would have liked to put them in a bubble and protected them, but Reality dictates differently.
Each age deals with things differently. Growing along with them and helping your children into adulthood in spite of all those sticks and stones words and actions will be a treasure you give to your kids.
Today the school bell has run and you are at work. God will help all of you until you meet again.
- Assure your kids that you will listen before reacting
- Keep open communication with your kids about their daily activities
- Have positive lines of communication with teachers and the principle
- Watch for signs that your child has an issue on the playground and in the classroom
- Make your home a safe haven. You are a positive advocate for your children
- Ask God to help you with A kind answer soothes angry feelings and pray, pray, pray!
YOU CAN DO THIS!