Revenge is a strong action word . Reading the newspaper or watching television affirms how revenge ends in murder, illness, evil and hatred. You hear things like, ‘I hope they rot’ or ‘I’ll get even’.
The wisest man on earth warned us of the results of revenge. Solomon said in Proverbs 14: 21, ‘It’s wrong to hate others’. Verse 30, It’s healthy to be content, but envy can eat you up.
When we fill our minds with getting even it can consume us leaving little room for a positive lifestyle. I hear from women who hate their ex and constantly talk about it. They are stuck!
In their defense, many Ex’s have chosen a totally selfish lifestyle. Women stand in court fighting for stability in the home but their ex turns things upside down leaving little financial resources and telling lies. It can be easy to have thoughts of revenge!
Divorce is painful leaving us to choose certain steps. Single parents are usually left holding the bag of deep emotions, financial burdens and raising the children.
As humans, revenge is the knee jerk reaction. That is where it needs to stay. I say that because I have been there. The journey is tough and hardworking. Some of you are left with little resources and energy. Many times, I felt wondering who I was, where I was headed, and how I was going to provide for my little family. Being deceived had cut to my very soul.
Roman 12:19, “Dear Friends, don’t try and get even. Let God take revenge. In the Scriptures the Lord says, I am the one to take revenge and pay them back.”
Taking things into our own hands will be trouble. Bad mouthing, slamming the ex’s name in front of the kids, constantly fighting just to fight is never good for our health and healing. It is a poison for not only you but the kids. Our choices are ours alone and we need to stand for Truth. The ex will be left to deal with their choices.
At the end of the day, we are left to live with our own actions, our own thinking, and our own responsibilities. Let’s make good choices. In Psalm 73, Aspah was struggling with unfair and painful issues of life. ‘THEN, I went to your temple, and there I understood…..’. Seeing God’s perspective will help us with our human unanswered questions. Let God be God. Let God help and heal you and leave the rest to Him.
What I did, and I am no expert, was to focus on what I could do for the girls and how I could heal. Life is unfair no doubt. Some days I hated the choices I was left with. When those days and certain situations arose, I was left with a choice: Bitterness or releasing the situation to God once again. I would rather have God’s help then be left without God and all the trouble it leads too.
I didn’t know what my future held. I worked hard at my job, but then because of downsizing, I lost my job twice. I was lonely but if I had ran into the arms of the first guy that paid attention to me; it would have been a disaster! I didn’t have much money and my bank account was drained many times however, “money earned little by little will grow and grow” (Prov 14:11). I was tired and sometimes had little energy in the mom department, but the girls and I rallied as a team.
This is a really tough issue and it is a longer blog to read this week. I really felt I was to share this. I don’t know your situation and I am not downplaying the very difficult and unfair situation you may be facing day in and day out. I really want you to feel freedom instead of wanting revenge.
Revenge…let this be God’s department. He knows the present and the future and He is in control. Focus on the good things of your life, stand for Truth. Believe me, Truth will always come out. Do what is right and fight for the good things for you and your kids. Revenge is different than fighting for what is right and true.
Friends used to say to me, ‘Linda you can’t see God working behind the scenes..just keep focusing and trusting God to help you in your life’.
Proverbs 4: 30, Don’t argue just be to arguing…
God has a 100% guarantee of being faithful even when we feel that we have been forgotten and unloved. Keep taking those positive steps with one foot in front of the other.
Feeling down? Want revenge? Practice what David did in Psalm 7:17, I will praise you, Lord! You always do right. I will sing about you, the Lord Most High.
Next week we talk about another R and it won’t be so long!!!
- Replace revenge with Praising God. It will bring you to a different level of thinking and a more positive lifestyle.
- Take care of what you can do, and leave the rest with God to work out.
- Remember, TRUTH WILL ALWAYS COME OUT. It may take a while but it will!
- Ask God for His peace.
- Watch what you say around the children and people in your circle
- Memorize Psalm 7:17
YOU CAN DO THIS!!!…GOD WILL DO HIS PART.