When I first became a single mom, I was given a lot of attention, re-assurance, and assistance.  I was so grateful for the kindness of people who took time from their busy schedules to minister to the girls and me.

Then life got into a routine, and the months and years went by. Our circle of people became somewhat smaller.

Time ticked by and healing took place but it didn’t mean some of the issues went away. I still dealt with loneliness, financial pressures, and spiritual bankruptcy from time to time.  It wasn’t that people didn’t care; it was a part of the life process.  Life gets busy for everyone. There were times I would hear my friends at church or at social gathering talking about plans to get together.  I wasn’t part of many of those invitations. I didn’t have a husband and these were couple events. I believe it never crossed their minds to ask me and this is in no way a slam on them, it is just Reality.

Does this sound familiar?  I could have gotten very bitter and self-absorbed pushing everyone away because I assumed no one cared.  If so, I would have lost out in some very important friendships and positive moments for myself and my girls. Sometimes, I had to be the ones to invite.

forgottenI had been on my own for over a decade and was re-entering the dating scene.  This was not easy and sometimes very painful. I can vividly remember sitting on my friend’s couch at a friend’s 40th birthday party that Saturday evening. They had invited me to celebrate and I was ready to party! Little did they know my heart was sad but God knew.  Being with these friends that particular night reassured me how I was loved and cared about even if I wasn’t asked to all their events. My Heavenly Father knew I needed that time with friends. So on that night, my heart healed just a bit.

You may feel forgotten but you aren’t.  Sometimes we have to be the ones to reach out and be the inviter.  Whatever your situation, God has not forgotten you. People may not always be there for you, but God is.  24/7.  This verse confirms it. He wants to hear from you.

Matthew 10: 30 -31,  “And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”

ID-100169204OPEN YOUR TOOL BOX: I see an invitation from God to spend time with Him

  • You are not forgotten. God is there.
  • As you brush your hair in the mornings, be reminded of Matthew 10: 30.
  • Invite some friends over for coffee and cake
  • Ask God to help you not get angry when you feel left out
  • There is a quote that says, “if God had a wallet, He would have your photo in it”. It’s true!


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