Did you ever play the game as a kid pulling the petals off a wild daisy saying ‘he loves me he loves me not’ about a certain boy you liked?
Have you ever felt the ‘he loves me, he loves me not’ about your husband? If you are like me and other many women, it was hard to wade through the heavy emotions of figuring out where you stood.
I can honestly say that there were days I felt numb. I didn’t know who to talk to about my feelings, scared my feeling was true, and hoped he still loved me. Feelings of inadequacy weighed heavy on my heart. If only I had been a better wife, or been more fun, or…….Reality was he loved me not.
Since then, I have learned that I can only make healthy and positive choices for myself. I can’t make anyone love me, or respect me and I certainly can’t change anyone but myself. I faced the decision and choice to love myself.
I have heard from women who have been verbally abused time and time again. It pains me. If you have experienced that, understand it takes time to love yourself again. Believing I was unique and special in God’s eyes helped me begin to heal. I may have been rejected by a human, but I knew that God was the real deal for love.
With God’s 100% guarantee of true love, you can take a new daisy, hold it tightly in your grasp and say ‘ He loves me, He loves me, He loves me”. God’s love is the most perfect love you can ever obtain. Jeremiah knew God’s love. Jeremiah 31: 3 (NIV), “The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” The complete chapter of Psalm 138 repeats again and again that God’s love NEVER fails.
Amazing! It is filled to the brim with God’s never-ending love. He wants you to understand even though a spouse no longer loves you, without a doubt, you can hold unto the fact that God’s love is true and will never leave you or forsake you.
Next step, It is time to wash those negative stinkin’ thinkin’ down the drain with a tool in your tool box.
We already have ideas of things we need to work on, so instead, write out for yourself a list of your good qualities and giftedness that you feel God has given you. He has loved you enough to enrich these on you. Rejoice! Look at all the opportunities you have to walk ahead. This can be exciting!
YOU CAN DO THIS!